One time Director of Veteran Affairs, Nigerian Navy Commodore Senebi Crowther Hungiapuko (Rt), Adviser to Adamawa State Governor on Security Matters and his friend. His visit to youth and dreams was a great previlage to the youth, a word of advice from an elder is priceless. Thank you sir, your words of wisdom and motivation has sink deep in our hearts.
This happened when the dreamers are peer to peer dialoguing/debating on "RAPE EPIDEMIC "
"RAPE EPIDEMIC". The conversation around the issue of rape is one that has been going on for a long time now. Hardly a day goes by without seeing a reported or alleged case of rape either on the news be it traditional news media or social media.
Last week’s Guardian Life cover “Rape Culture: More Than Just Another Conversation” reads that “Out of the 99.1 million women in Nigeria, a 2014 national survey revealed one in four females experienced sexual assault as a child. What is more? Don't forget rape cases is on the increase daily. The Positive Action for Treatment Access (PATA), notes that about 31.4 percent of girls described their first sexual experience as non-consensual.”
The #MeToo Movement has empowered more survivors to come forward and created an awareness around the globe about rape.
The dialogue/debate is interested challenging and educative, thank to boys and girls participants.
VOICE OF OUR REMOTE CONTRIBUTOR'S
"RAPE EPIDEMIC
Due to the current situation of the world rape is viral and trend it has become the order of the day to day act. Stay at home was what the nation's want to make the spread of Corona virus less but a lot has happened to the nation's been good and bad.
Rape is one of the classes of molestation.
before we talk of rape we have to defined molestation.
WHAT IS MOLESTATION? Is sexual assault or harassment. is an act of tampering or annoying intentional.
WHAT IS RAPE? It is sexual violence or abuse which has taking place. It is a secret crime between an adult to adult or child. Rape can be done in many ways when a boy touch a girl on her breast without her consent is RAPE, when a girl touch a boy genital without he agreed to it a RAPE. Touching opposite sex intentionally adult or child is rape.
CATEGORIES OF RAPE
-Fingering.
-Fondling.
-Makin a child or adult to watch pornography. Etc.
WHAT ARE THE CAUSE OF RAPE
-Idleness.
-peers
-watching movies without parental guard. Etc
WHO IS AT FAULT?
Who is at fault it can be the girl or the boy. Rape is a crime against law and norms who ever that take the first step is at fault. The question we should ask is how do they get to know about sex cause that is the source of rape. I strongly say rape is a choice to the rapist cause we still have JOSEPH in our generation that can flee all appearance of evil.
WHAT ARE THE CONTROL MEASURES
-Give your children sex education, Children from the age of 2 is due for sex education.
-Don't be a hard mum or dad strike a balance between love and discipline.
-Teach them to respect one another privacy.
-Adults and young adults should stop watching pornography or movie with violence language.
HOW TO COPE WITH THE GUILT AND SHAME.
1 victims can gradually cope in an environment where there is no sentiment.
2 Parents, teachers, auntie and uncles should try and talk thing out with courageous words.
3 Shame are graduate process that disappear like smoke.
4 victims should change environment if necessary."
Happiness James
"GUILT AND SHAME OF BEING RAPE!
Although what happened to them was not their fault, many rape survivors experience both guilt and shame after being sexually assaulted. Here is a place to explore the cause of these emotions and hopefully find our way past them.
Let's start with the basics and define both guilt and shame (Webster's College Dictionary):
Guilt: n. 1. the fact or state of having committed an offense, crime, violation, or wrong, esp. against moral or penal law.
2. a feeling of responsibility or remorse for some offense, crime, wrong, etc., whether real or imagined.
Shame: n. 1. the painful feeling of having done or experienced something dishonorable, improper, foolish, etc.
Many people think of guilt and shame as the same thing (and the dictionary defines them this way). They are, however, extremely different. Rape survivors feel guilty, for the most part, because they feel they did something wrong which caused them to be sexually assaulted ("if I wasn't wearing that dress...if only I hadn't drunk so much...I shouldn't have been alone with him," etc). They feel guilty because it seems like their actions caused the assault.
Shame is what prevents many survivors from speaking about what happened to them. Shame is an attack on the survivor as a person ("I am a bad person because this happened to me..."). It is the feeling you get when you are sure that someone will think poorly of you because you were assaulted. Shame is longer lasting, and ultimately more dangerous than guilt.
Nancy Venable Raine, in her book After Silence: Rape and My Journey Back
discusses the difference between guilt and shame:
Shame is often confused with guilt, but Lewis notes that whereas shame is "the complete closure of the self-object circle...in guilt, although the self is the subject, the object is external." Guilt is produced when you evaluate your behavior as a failure, but the focus is on what you could have done differently and what you can do to repair the damage. Guilt is less intense than shame and less negative because the focus is an "action of the self rather than the totality of the self." When corrective action is impossible, guilt is converted to shame. Rape, by definition, is a situation where corrective action is impossible.
The feeling of shame is so intense for rape victims that many never tell anyone what happened to them. Even in psychotherapeutic settings, victims of rape often avoid talking about what happened to them. Despite more than two decades of change in social attitudes about rape, I still found it difficult not to feel ashamed when others reacted to me with embarrassment or discomfort. And this feeling of shame silenced me. Lewis notes that an intense feeling of shame can actually cause loss of memory. Shame silences because it encloses the entire self.
Rape shame is hard to escape...Attempts to dissipate the same by giving words to the unspeakable seem only to increase it. The shame is mirrored by the listener, sometimes quite obviously by a blush, an averting of the eyes, or a hunching of the shoulders, sometimes by silence. The telling then feels like a confession, an admission of wrongdoing, and the sense of is deepened. Shame is what the rapist, not the victim, should feel. Yet his shame is transferred to the victim, and her shame renders her mute. And her muteness seems to confirm the moral rightness of this transfer. The feeling of shame seems to make being the victim of rape an act of wrongdoing...
Guilt and shame are difficult to escape, and as Nancy Venable Raine notes, you can tell yourself that what happened wasn't your fault, but sometimes it is really hard to believe it. Here are some suggestions for combating guilt and shame:
When you are feeling guilty about being sexually assaulted, take a minute to look up the definition in the dictionary. It sounds silly, but sometimes it is all it takes to help you remember that you are not the one who committed the crime. It is the person who assaulted you who should feel guilty about their actions.
Keep a journal. When you are feeling ashamed or guilty, write down your feelings. Then, write a paragraph about why you are feeling that way ("I feel ashamed because I told my friend what happened to me today, and she seemed embarrassed...), then write a paragraph evaluating the situation ("I should not feel ashamed because I was assaulted and if my friend has a problem with me telling her, it's a problem with her and not with me...").
Talk to someone you trust about how you are feeling. Sometimes it helps to have another person tell you that what happened was not your fault. Talking about your feelings can help you make sense of them.
Buy The Courage to Heal Workbook and do the exercises. Many of them will help relieve your feelings of guilt and shame".
Cyril Nzebeledajimatto Pamassa
"On June 09, 2020.
Adamawa State has confirmed that 299 rape cases were reported in the last five months.
Manager of Adamawa State Sexual Assault Referral Center, Dr Usha Saxena, made the disclosure in Yola, the state capital, while speaking with journalists."
Alvah Emanuel
"MY TAKE ON THIS RAPE IS NO BODIES FAULT BE IT BOY OR GIRL, BECAUSE GIRLS RAPE TOO, BUT THE MOSTLY AFFECTED ARE WOMEN AND MINORS."
Martin Huritombo
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